Back to: Healing Insecurity
Notes:
Relationship Intelligence Class #3
Relationship Intelligence is about healing insecurity. Father wants us to celebrate what we see in the mirror (which is the image of God). When I don’t see God’s image in me and celebrate myself – how can I trust a God who trusts me.
Trust means being celebrated. When I walk in this celebration – I have access in favor. If I can’t love myself, then I cannot love my neighbor and I cannot love the God who created me.
Insecurity – is feeling secure in ‘someone else’s’ belief rather than who you truly are. God has given ‘you’ the power to be sons and daughters of Him.
Wherever there is insecurity – there is control. It defines us in failure. Wherever there is security, we are defined by Jesus. We accessing through His pain, His blood which makes me reliable to anyone who wants to see Jesus through me.
God wants us to understand the power of security. The power of security is celebrate and worship. Celebration and worship reframing everything around a belief. No matter what happens around me I will celebrate and worship. I will not fear (Psalm 23).
Your belief of “I can do all things through Christ” you confidence is in Jesus and it gives you maturity.
Belief gives permission to faith and faith is a reward. Faith is a substance for hope. The more you believe in the righteous things – the more (full) life you get. Insecurity isn’t the life to live. It always brings you down. Declaring righteous are important.
If you are anxious or avoidance – you are always focusing on lack. And lies will take away the opportunity to serve God through adventure and you’ll focus on lack.
Where do you want to stand and think from? Insecurity creates a space for the enemy to place lies that will rob us of the opportunity to serve God through adventure.
Until the day Jesus returns the bible says “be aware of the enemy”. Look at your day and wake up with celebration – but be aware of the enemy, of feeling insecure. When you are feeling insecure you are welcoming hurt to happen. Wherever insecurity is – there is hurt and it makes you unaccepted, not valued, detached, like you don’t belong and you pull yourself from opportunities to create unity, bond and connection. You divide and separate yourself and not be the helper you are supposed to be. You become independent. It is a self-protection.
Insecurity closes you to someone else’s needs. You bind yourself to insecure inter-dependancy.
When you accept insecurity you are accepting hurt and you are immediately divided. Division brings 2 different thoughts and goes in 2 different ways.
So, when someone desires to be close to me and is asking me questions, and I avoid – I am doing it because I don’t want to feel weak. When insecurity shows up in my life – I immediately connect to where someone else is weak.
Example: Stephanie shares about a General Manager she works under. He is so good at what he does and she is impressed. She shared how she had car issues and needed his help to clock her out and it seemed like a very reasonable need and he wouldn’t do it. But the manager above him is very helpful. She is seeing security verses insecurity in these 2 people.
The problem with being insecure, it robs the opportunity of being intimate (not in a sexual way). It allows us to sense and feel other people’s needs. Commitment means connecting to mutual beliefs.
When I feel insecure I feel like I am being taken for granted. When I feel secure I will not only give someone a cloak, I will give them my coat too. (Luke 6:29) Know who you are partnering with. You are partnered with God no matter who your partner of flesh is.
Back to Stephanie’s example:
#1 She showed a basic concern towards her GM. He didn’t sell her joy.
#2 She focused on her belief, not her emotion.
#3 Focus on a belief, not an emotion.
A question was raised on how to deal with family. Ravi gave a great teaching on connecting with them and trusting God.
A question was raised that they are feel anxiety and struggle with God so feeling joy is tough. Ravi taught about using his words – and declaring truth over lies. The enemy is trying to trap you in a hole and it happens without your consent. The enemy digs the trap so deep that you have no way to come out of the trap. What do you do? The more you dig in the trap, the more you sink into negativity, fear and lack. What should you do? Get to know who you are partnering with. Whistle to Dad. “My help comes from the Lord.” ((Psalm 121). Celebrate and worship God.
Further discussion and questions continued.
Ravi extended an invitation for 16 people to continue on this journey.
Closed in prayer.